Why Is Life Just So Damned Hard at Present?

It’s a fair enough question beckoning the attention of everyone from time to time. The trouble is all the bad stuff of life is accumulating in the conscious mind – and hellishness is the felt result. Could I interest you in a better answer? One that could stave off the cloud of hopelessness…

At the level of the conscious moment, when all those little humps and bumps on the road are most adept at ruffling us, another thing remains which is barely noted, but it nonetheless exists: it is patience beyond the moment’s despair. Indeed, it’s a tired message – but one eternally relevant, whether it’s needed for this moment or not.

Fighting Inner Anxiety?

Riling anger that pervades without is a sign of panic within.

External circumstances are what they are, and besides a wretched run of luck, these times are ever present in everyone’s life. It’s just not attributed as a concern during ‘good’ times, that’s all. (Isn’t it funny how ‘accepting’ we are of others’ struggles as they don’t impinge on us?)

The more one person focuses on bad matters or untoward things the more they attract them. So, is it a matter of focus? That’s part of the issue, but it’s inherent to our natures as well.

Fighting the inner anxiety it isn’t, not so much as it’s staying philosophical about life. A lack of focus contributes, but much re-focussing is wearying. The philosophical approach is more ‘user friendly’ (to coin an old phrase); it’s being more realistic.

Breaking Life Down and Expanding It Out

As trials and gloominess occur, threatening our composure, hope and sanity, we can best reflect over the actual issues.

There are possibly four, five or ten things that are troubling us, but one or two of these is more pivotal than the others. Each of these by themselves could be handled. Therefore, we have the opportunity to remind ourselves that these pressures need not be cumulative. Breaking life down creates logic that diminishes the size of our problems. Thus, breathing space and realism is afforded, steadying our way.

Likewise, the opposite ‘bigger’ opportunity remains… too much negative focus is creating tunnel vision to the exclusion of the better things that are always visible. Expanding our vision of life is reminding us that being here is still to be cherished; that much of life is still great.

Tips For the Present – Learn From the Past, Plan For the Future

Everybody is in a rush. A rush to do this or that. To get up in the morning, to make breakfast, to dress, to go to school, to work, to go to the gym. In fact everybody is in a hurry to do many things which means everyone has an enormous amount of activities all day long. We manage to convince ourselves that everything we do is all important – and yet somehow as the day ends we are exhausted and are left with a vague feeling that we did not accomplish everything we set out to do.

The reason for this is quite simple. We live in a society that measures success on the basis of accomplishment – and accomplishment is measured on the basis of how much we do or how much we get. In turn we have conditioned ourselves to always think of the next move. To accomplish and get more you have to do more, so there is always something else. Another move, another set of actions.

This is where the problems start. We focus our thoughts and energy onto the next thing and not on what we are actually supposed to be doing.

When we focus on the next step, the next activity or our next action, we forget to concentrate and to live 100% that one thing we are doing in that specific moment in time. Pope John Paul II once said that we should learn from the past, plan for the future, but live the present – or words to that effect.

These are words of wisdom that should guide our every moment.

There are a few implications here, such as:

By learning from the past:

  • you should learn to avoid mistakes and more importantly repeat those things that brought success or triumphant moments.
  • neither dwell nor relive the past. The past is gone – finito, kaput. We must learn to let it go.
  • treasure the good and the bad. Treasure it, not gloat over it or sink with it.

Plan for the future:

  • set your sights high and aim for the sky.
  • apply yesterdays lessons to plan for tomorrow.
  • your plan will map out the road you must follow.

Live the present:

  • every journey starts with one step. Today you will take the steps you must on the road you mapped out for the future.
  • each moment, in other words your continuous present, must be lived will full concentration, with full dedication and passion. If you are with someone else, your child for example, your full focused energy and attention should be 100% dedicated to that person in that moment in time.
  • a focused present, strengthened with the lessons of the past and the target for the future will result in less mistakes or negative results. It will always generate an action motivated from a freer perspective.

When you start applying this way of life you will find in the beginning that you are set in your ways so change will not be easy. If, however, you persist for a short while, you will find that it gets easier each time.

Then you will be surprised to find that everything gets better; not in a magical sense, after all there are no magical formulas, but in a real sense.

  1. Your day to day activities that are driven by your dedicated and focused attention to what you are doing as you are doing it, will show greater results. These results will go beyond, and this is the important part, beyond achieving things, to achieving wonderful things in terms of your relationship with others. One of the amazing things about people is that when they feel they are important in your eyes – and this will happen as you live the present when your are with them – they will try to give the best of themselves in return.
  2. Your past will begin to be made up of all these “presents” you are living day to day.
  3. Your future turns into your present and then your past, and all under that path with a heart you are taking, today.

Leverage! 4 Ways to Become an Effective Presenter

Fed up with cut backs and downsizing messing with your plans for a great year? If you’re looking for new ideas to get more customers, don’t let little things like no money and no staff get in your way of giving effective presentations.

Scratch that. Phenomenal presentations.

Seriously.

More and more small businesses are looking for new ways to grow effective presentation skills. It’s the fastest and smartest investment you can make. If you are serious about increasing the number of leads, and attracting prospects to become customers.

But if you just try to work harder you could end up stressed out. Consider the downside: you will work yourself to the bone but not achieve your goals. Sound familiar?

If you are feeling overworked, without a family life and fed up with your presentation skills, there is a quick and easy solution.

What’s the smart way to get fresh ideas for winning more customers?

Leverage!

Here’s 4 ways to creatively leverage your sales efforts – and attract more of what you truly want.

1. Redefine
Change the way you define a lead. In many small businesses, a lead is anyone and everyone. Every business card, every contact and every trade show attendee is considered a lead.

But this is not truly the case.

Far too many people are in your contact bucket. The people who toss their business card in a fishbowl at a trade show are not really qualified leads. They just wanted your trade show freebie. They have not actually stood up and waved their arms, saying: “I want to do business with you!”

Make a simple shift. Redefine whom you consider a qualified lead.

One of the fastest ways to make this shift is to set up a series of steps involving interaction. Give prospects specific things to do: such as downloading a whitepaper, taking a video tutorial or registering for a webinar.

By tracking your prospect’s behaviors, you can redefine interest level and what is often called: ‘warmth.’ This raises your standards and can help you focus on the people who are most likely to become customers.

2. Expand
Expand your comfort zone of presenting. If you’re used to presenting face-to-face, get training and coaching for other medias. For instance, learn how to be effective virtually and on camera.

A small amount of targeted training creates a huge result. When you feel at ease in a new media, you will naturally start to use it more. And this is extremely valuable to boost your exposure to more leads.

3. Experiment
Experiment and try new things. Check out new creative approaches such as video for YouTube, a mini-series of webinars or a sequence of informative videos.

Pick new activities using a simple check system. Does the new media appeal to your target market? Is it cost-effective to create? Is it something you can do in a limited amount of time?

Try out different places to post your new videos and webinars. For instance, put new videos on your website. Experiment with creating a new microsite to host your videos. Then, promote this with emails, social media and press releases.

By experimenting with new media, you can radically increase exposure to your target market.

4. Test Vigorously!
Test your ideas. And then, keep testing. Not everything you try will work like a charm the first time. Keep testing so that you can see which kinds of presentations work best for your marketing efforts.

Many business owners and entrepreneurs are reluctant to try out new lead generation activities – because they don’t know how to give charismatic and effective presentations.

But not you! The challenge is to use leverage. Power up your sales presentations to achieve maximum impact.